Things not working out the way you had hoped or expected.
Sometimes it’s a situation…
The proposal was denied.
The client you wanted to work with that never called back.
Sometimes it’s a person…
The friend we were counting on.
The consultant that didn’t do their part.
Either way…things just did not work out the way you planned. In those moments, it is normal to feel disappointed. Disappointment can be a healthy emotion. It makes total sense as the feeling to accompany a disappointing situation.
But sometimes the mind can make a jump…from disappointment to doubt.
Disappointment lives in the past and focuses on what did not go well…but Doubt…Doubt takes disappointment and places it in the future. Doubt says “Why try when I will only be disappointed again?”.
Doubt assigns a reason for your disappointment and makes it something unchangeable.
Doubt speaks to your abilities, your strengths and the strengths and abilities of those around you. Doubt tends to ignore the growth perspective and makes situations feel permanent. Doubt tells us that whatever happened in the past...is bound to happen again. Doubt removes the possibility of change But let me share something with you.
It may not have worked out before, but that has nothing to do with the future.
You always have the ability to improve and progress. You can learn from what occurred. You can create a strategy for what you can do different next time.
Keep in mind that you are always growing. Situations are always dynamic and changing. New opportunities always lie ahead.
Don’t let the disappointments in the past become the doubts of the future.