No matter what direction your life takes, there will invariably moments that represent an end. Relationships, work experiences, moving from a house, terminating with a client or even finishing a good book can all represent ending. Your ability to navigate and process endings actually has a lot to do with the level of enjoyment and peace you have in life. Even though though transitions are key to success in life, we rarely focus on how to navigate them well. So let’s take a look these seven ways you can improve your endings?
- Enjoy where you are while you are there. Most of the stress of ending well comes from feeling incomplete. Avoid that by really bringing your full self to whatever you are doing. Strive to stay in the moment.
- Prepare for change...have in your mind the thought that things are constantly changing. That no matter how positive or negative you view a situation…it will assuredly be different at some point. Nothing remains static. We are either growing or dying. That is the nature of life. Expect change to come.
- Be reflective of what this is experience is adding to your life. Be aware of what is going on in your life. The lessons, the patterns, the growth. Sometimes it is hard in the moment to really reflect on how you are growing in a particular experience, but learning to do that has helped me to understand when it is time to move on and allow room for something new in life. Be aware of your lessons and you will know when it is time to graduate.
- Be honest and be bold. When you can sense that it is time to make a change, be willing to do so. Don't wait for a situation to crumble, be proactive and navigate closures in a timely fashion.
- Be graceful, compassionate and genuine . This is especially true if you are leaving a personal or professional relationship. Everyone has some level of difficulty with endings. The thoughts or feelings that are triggered by endings can cause people to say and do things different than they normally would. Be gracious towards the people you are in this with. Don't take it personally. Instead, focus on managing your own thoughts and behaviors, so you can be responsible for the energy you bring to the situation.
- Know when it is not wise to second guess or double back. Be brave enough to stand in the new frontier and make the best of this new situation. Life is like a river moving forward. Think things through, but when you move on, be clear about why and avoid second guessing and doubling back. Doing so causes waffling and that can diminish your confidence. Just keep moving forward!
- Choose your meaning. You get to choose what meaning you will assign to every event that happens in your life. When you reflect on situations…choose to focus on the lesson, the opportunities for personal growth and the self-awareness you need to continually be your best. Getting stuck in criticism and complaining will not make you or others better in the long run.
What else do you do to help you navigate endings? Can you think of an ending that absolutely changed the course of your life forever? I would love to hear your insights on ending well.